The husband and I met in an online chat room long before online dating sites became commonplace. Neither of us were looking for a relationship–probably the opposite. And yet, when we met, everything just clicked. We started our life together almost immediately, and got married a year later. From that point on, all we could do was keep our eyes open and our hands clasped together, holding on to each other as life’s roller coaster did its thing.
We’ve have good times and bad times. But I think we can both still admit that each year together is better than the last.
So on this our 15th Valentine’s Day, I want to commemorate our wonderful years together with some memories from when we met:
When we first met online, I had no inkling that you would be the one. Truth be told, I was happy just chatting with my online friends. I had enough problems being a single mom and trying to make ends meet. A relationship was the furthest thing from my mind. I doubted you would find me attractive, and I knew that you were years younger than me. So any type of love relationship just wasn’t in my consciousness.
However, I thought you could very well become my best friend. It was for that reason that I agreed to meet.
What was it about our first date that turned everything on its ear? I don’t know if I could even today say what it was about you that first attracted me. I think it was an instinctual recognition. A feeling that this was right.
After our third date, I think we both felt love was a foregone conclusion. I was on the top of the world. I had fallen in love with someone who I liked, who was fast becoming my best friend. It was exhilarating and terrifying all at once. But I knew it was right.
Here’s something you might not know: I saved some of our chat streams from that time. It’s fun to read them every once in a while, and see our love when it was all shiny and new.
I told you early on that even if I didn’t love you, I would still have wanted you for my best friend. But the truth is I got lucky and have both in the same person.
So here’s to you, my love, my best friend.
Happy Valentine’s Day****
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